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Can I really start avoiding divorce on my first date?

On Behalf of | May 10, 2022 | Divorce |

The idea that avoiding divorce starts on the first date is hardly new. In fact, many relationship gurus and experts have given this advice for years, and it still holds true today. Paying attention to red flags now can avoid divorcing over those red flags later.

Common divorce inducing red flags

The commonly known red flags on a first date are using their phone, answering calls, being distracted by surroundings, talking about a specific ex-spouse a little too much, etc. Some other red flags that may not be as obvious are talking about their job too much (workaholic), asking too many questions about your financial status, etc.

Remember, the first couple of dates are when we all are on our best behavior, so if there are already red flags now, they will only get worse as the relationship progresses.


Another, less talked about way to avoid Michigan divorce now is noticing how they interact with you and those around them. This includes how they treat support staff (secretaries, waiters, cashiers, etc.), how they treat homeless people, etc. These microinteractions often give us a glimpse into who that person really is, even if they have their guard up. Another important microinteraction is how they react at the end of a first date.

End of the first date?

Offer to pay. This goes for everyone in Michigan, not just men. How one reacts at this very early meeting to you offering to pay will tell you how they will react with money in most other instances. And, since money is cited as one of the most common reasons for divorce, this microinteraction can speak volumes. Look for a reaction that shows entitlement to your money; entitlement to you paying for them. If they already have it now, they are likely not the one.

Try not to get swept up in the honeymoon phase

All too often, we can get swept up in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship. This is the time when they can do no wrong, and they are perfect. Unfortunately, if we are not careful, this phase can lead to marriage and, ultimately, to divorce. This is why it is so important for our Brighton Howell area readers to pay attention early to avoid years of wasted time later.